My Son Draculaura
Posted: 10/31/2014 Filed under: Holidays, It's Personal | Tags: Boys in girls costumes, Draculaura Costume, kids diy monster high costume, Monster High costumes, My Muse Max, My son Draculaura, Super Goody Bag, The Princess Boy 16 Comments
My son Max is the most confident person I’ve ever met in my life. This year for his school Halloween party he went as Draculaura from Monster High. Choosing to dress as a female character is nothing new for him. At only 7 years old he’s already gone in costume as Princess Leia and Padmé Amidala from Star Wars, Clawdeen Wolf from Monster High and Catwoman. When he was younger he wasn’t the least bit concerned what his peers might think of his “girlie” choices, but as he’s getting older he’s starting to worry.
Kids (and some adults) can be so cruel and it’s finally starting to take a toll on him. A boy in a “girls” costume makes him an easy mark for bullies, and great gossip for the mommies. I know that I’m “feeding him to the wolves” when I let him go to a school function dressed as the opposite sex, but what’s my other option? Tell him he can’t be who he is because some dipshit little kids and their parents feel awkward around my son. Not gonna happen on my watch. Not while I’m his mommy.
Needless to say he ended up having a blast at the Halloween party. Max’s friends and their parents are amazing and have always accepted him with open arms, no matter how sparkly and fabulous he is. Yes, there were a few stares and whispers (mostly from parents), but as I’ve always tried to instill in my son, we can’t worry about what everyone else thinks. My kid is polite, sensitive, loving, and has a heart of gold. He is perfect.
Is my son straight, gay, bi, trans or a metrosexual in the making? I have no clue, but I do know whatever God (or whatever higher power) has intended him to be, he is incredible. He is stronger and more secure with himself than most adults. I can’t wait to see what beautiful costume he has in store for next year. I’m sure it will be fabulous. – Jill Topol
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That was a most touching monologue about the sweetest most lovable kid! May Max always be so confident and let his heart take him to whatever it is that he wants to be.
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[…] And this year, he’s just old enough to start worrying about bullies and what other kids will think and say and do. He told his mom he didn’t want to go to his school’s Halloween party for that reason. His mom blogged about it, too. […]
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I don’t know you, but wanted to say Max looks AWESOME! You go with your bad self, kid! 😀
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Max will soon learn that the whispers he hears are insecurities. There’s no greater, more prolific jealousy than of someone else’s confidence.
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Go Max. Continue to be your great individual self. And great job mom….letting Max be his greatest self.
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This is awesome. My guy continues his fabulous-ness as well. Let them be who they are. It’s a gift we can give them. Check out raisingmyrainbow.com if you haven’t already. xoxo
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all i know is my Sophie loves him and thinks he is awesome. i know we can’t protect our kids from everything but i also think that if we can support and let whatever traits they have “breathe” they will find the way to deal and others will just have to as well. our job is to love and nurture and you are a leading example of true parenting.
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Max, you look great! Terrific costume! Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
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Have you ever asked Max if he’s transgendered?
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Yes, we have had quite a few gender related talks. He identifies himself as a male.
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One day the rest of the world will catch up to Max. I’ve never met a more loving kid in my life. His honesty is so crystal clear that i know it might make less secure people lash out or say mean things. But if we had a few more people like Max in the world, and a few more moms like you, this planet would be a much better place.
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Max is so bless to have a Mum like you. I remember being exactly like Max when I was his age but my Mum didn’t like it, I was very into girls fashion and loved dressing up and making girls clothes, I knew I was gay at the time but I never wanted to be a Girl or anything which is what most people seem to think when boys dress as girls, My Mum would constantly tell me “I’m a boy – stop trying to be a girl” If only she realised I was just trying to be me. I’m now 35, I haven’t dressed up since I was like 14 but I like woman’s accessories – scarves and perfumes. I often wonder if things would have been different if she had just let me “be”. I like to think I’d be working I fashion right now if she had.
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I have never commented on a blog before, but I was very moved and touched by what you wrote. Max looks great and we in the goldberger/michaelian house love him!
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My daughter put a magnet on our refrigerator that summed us up eloquently: ” my parents said I could grow up to be anything, so I became a lesbian”! I personally feel like you are born who you are, it just takes a supportive family to develop your talents, whatever they may be! Way to go Mom!
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Hello, my son also loves to dress as a girl, mostly princesses. I’ve been a high school teacher for 17 years. What I have observed through my student is that even the most “perfect” kids are going to be made fun of. My son is 5, and my husband and I try to just fill him up as much as we can, “You are great. You are kind. You are the best Henry anyone can ever be.” Because at the end of the day, someone is not going to like you no matter what. You just gotta love yourself. Anyway. If you ever need a play date to design dresses, let me know. It’s our favorite pastime. Thanks for your article! You’re a good mom.
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Love love love! :-). Your son is adorable! We need to celebrate him and those with fun little quirks! Everyone should not fit the same moldb
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